My name is Lani Rae and I am very excited to be posting on Rachel’s blog today 🙂 Rachel has been doing a little blogger guest post series on mental health which I think is a very big but also very important idea to talk about and spread awareness of. I have not dealt with mental health personally, however people who are close to me and countless people that I have met have been touched with issues regarding their mental health.
I feel like lots of people find the idea of mental health, or I suppose inadequate mental health really scary. I’m not sure if this is because it makes the person different or if it’s just the unknown, but it is much more common than I feel like anybody thinks it is. This is something that I have come to find the older I have gotten. I am quite a young women so it’s only recently that I have discovered certain people that I have known for a long time to show mental health issues. I would also like to let you know that I am not trying to offend anyone who may be going through this or know of people going through this, I just thought it would be beneficial to share my view on the matter so that some people might be able to relate to, and from that possibly find comfort in it.
One person that I have known for over four years had begun to show signs of mental disorder last year, and naturally it really scared me because seeing someone you’ve known for a long time change like that is quite scary. They had always been a little bit stranger than others but it was clear that when she would have to often leave in the middle of class because she wasn’t feeling right, or just seem upset in general, something must not have been right. She seemed to experience a variety of moods, but given that I haven’t been told personally I do not want to just assume they may be bipolar. There was one situation where they told a transgender student that their sexuality ‘wasn’t right’, and once again this shocked me that someone could approach such a taboo subject with such force and what seemed like ignorance. This almost solidified the realness of the entire issue for me.
I was not extremely close with this person, so I did not think it was right for me to invest myself in their issues and harass them with my condolences. From my experience I have learned that taking a step back, accepting that person and just being genuinely considerate and kind to that person will actually go an unbelievably long way. Treating them no different to just an average person (which technically they completely are!) is what they will appreciate and admire. I’ve found that this person now has a sort of respect for me based on how I treat them.
I could go on about many situations that I have been through with both intense and small wavers of mental health issues, but most of them will result in my opinion of being the most genuine and happy person that you can possibly be toward them. This is because, for me, surrounding myself with happiness makes me feel one hundred times better, let alone someone whose head space is not in the best form.
Thank you so much for reading!