Thinking Too Much

Thinking Too Much

Recently I wrote a post on Ruby Wax’s Mindfulness Guide For The Frazzled and it got me thinking about living in the present.

I am a deep thinker, an overthinker. I don’t make decisions lightly, nor do I ever really throw caution to the wind and do something I want to do without considering the consequences. Usually I would say this is a positive aspect of my personality, but the overthinking? Not so much.

A lot of my time is spent considering the futility of life, our existence, my deep seated fear of death (I wish I was joking) when I really think I’d be happier if I could just let all of that go. Of course, ‘just letting it go’ isn’t all that easy.

So I’ve made a list of things that might help me get out of this never-ending spiral of thought.

Connect

If there’s one thing that makes me really appreciate life and find meaning in things, it’s connecting with other people. By nature I am an introvert and I do not generally like to socialise. It takes me a long time to recharge after spending time with people but in the moments when I am socialising, it feels good.

Get Outside

I love the feeling of breathing in fresh air. I love the tingle on the cold on my skin or the heat in the Summer. One of my favourites things to do that helps me feel grounded is getting outside, somewhere in the countryside. Somewhere where I feel tiny. Just a small speck on the earth’s surface.

Running

Lots of people say that what they love about running, is that it gives them time to think. What I love about running, is that it gives me time to not think. When I first started running I was useless at it, so to distract myself from the fact I was running I would scroll through song lyrics in my head. If I was feeling stressed, I would go out for a run so whilst I was running I could mull through my problems. But once my running improved I realised that this was the perfect time to not be thinking. So now when I run, I concentrate solely on my body, on my breath, on the ways my skin is getting redder, on the way my feet hit the ground.

Reading

Reading is my favourite pastime. I love the idea that you can sit down with a book and be transported somewhere else, into someone else’s world. Recently I’ve been reading a lot of self-improvement books, but sometimes I feel like they’re doing the opposite to what I want them to. I find myself getting too caught up in ‘improving’ myself and I spend too much time thinking. So this year I’m trying to get back into fiction, so instead of living in my head, I can live in someone else’s for a short while.

Some of my favourite recents reads have been some gritty thrillers like Fool Me Once by Harlan Coben and The Gift by Louise Jensen.

Do you find that you spend too much time thinking? Have you ever tried to combat that? Let me know in the comments!

 

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7 Comments

  1. January 18, 2017 / 5:40 pm

    I am most definitely an overthinker. In fact it has been flagged as something for me to work on in DBT. I find knitting/crochet a really good way to not think. Also breathing exercises, reading, Reding and singing/dancing. Basically if I focus on what I’m doing I should be OK its when I start multitasking it becomes a problem.

    • rach
      January 18, 2017 / 10:30 pm

      Definitely agree about multitasking. I’ll have to give the knitting a go!

  2. January 18, 2017 / 9:35 pm

    I definitely relate to this! I think waaaay too much for my own good, haha. It does annoy me a lot and it makes me worry about things that will probably never even happen, that I’ve just invented in my head and got out of proportion. Like you said, I tend to do things that will give me time to not think, like reading or exercising or going out with friends. At times it’s worse than others but if we can occupy our minds with positive thoughts it’ll make a lot of difference 🙂 great post!

    • rach
      January 18, 2017 / 10:31 pm

      Yes, I’m sure 90% of the things that I worry about never happen! Positive thinking goes a long way, for sure!

  3. January 31, 2017 / 6:56 pm

    I always keep a notepad with me so if some irrelevant thought pops in, I quickly jot it down as if writing it down will erase it from my brain. However, I love reading a lot; it’s like I read then when I close the book I have things to do so my brain isn’t overthinking about stupid things but focusing on the task at hand and how it needs to get done.

  4. February 24, 2017 / 4:34 pm

    Hi! I agree completely with you. I overthink EVERYTHING.. I end up creating a whole story in my head and convince myself that its fact. The key is to read self help books to help train your mind… reading other peoples blogs helps me massively too. Thank you for starting your blog, its a really interesting read 🙂

    Take care! Lora x

  5. May 4, 2017 / 9:02 pm

    I am a massive overthinker , I think day and night , lie awake at night because I’m thinking too much, it is exhausting mentally and physically, I worry about absolutely everything and can’t switch off, replay situitions over and over again in my head from the past and also scenarios that could happen in the future but most likely never will, and I get anxious and stressed about them. Think think think. That’s me, always.

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