If you know me outside of blogging, (and God I hope you do not, because how did you find my blog??), you probably wouldn’t say I was a sensitive person. I’m not overly emotional at all. Actually, scrap that. I’m not emotional at all. You won’t see me cry, you won’t see me angry. I just don’t express emotion very well in public.
But when I’m on my own, I’m the most emotionally sensitive person ever. I think I’m getting better at this whole sensitivity thing because now when people make an offhand remark, I don’t go home and get upset.
It’s really easy to take someone’s comment and twist and turn it until you’ve turned something completely innocuous into a negative comment that you’ve taken to heart.
So here are some ways to deal with being overly sensitive.
Accept that you are a sensitive person.
Like I said above, I don’t tend to get emotional in public. Maybe this is a reaction to being overly sensitive in private, I don’t know but it’s taken me a long time to realise that yes I’m just sensitive to some things. And that’s okay! And whatever you do, don’t mix up sensitivity with weakness.
Write it down.
Journalling makes me feel so much better. If I don’t write my feelings down they get stuck in my head and go round and round so that I can’t stop thinking about them. I try to write in my journal daily so that I don’t carry negative thoughts around with me, which leaves me lots of headspace for more important things.
Be compassionate to yourself.
If something upsets you more than you know it should, don’t get angry at yourself. You’re not flawed. Sometimes people might say ‘you’re so sensitive,’ but try not to internalise the comment. It’s just someone’s observation, it doesn’t mean you’re wrong to react that way.
Recognise the advantages
Sensitive people are more likely to practice self care, to be aware of their surroundings and to feel positive emotions more deeply. Explore these new found advantages and be glad that you’re highly sensitive.
Acceptance is the first step!
Do you find yourself emotionally overreacting? Do you like being overly sensitive? Let me know in the comments!