Quitting The Drama

For someone interested in everything psychology related, I know very little about how the brain actually works. That thing people say about your brain only having a finite amount of space so that when you learn a new thing, something else gets pushed out, is that true? I’m unsure, but my point is, my brain definitely only has a fixed amount that it can hold.

In the last few years, my brain has collected many useful tidbits of information – I can tell you the release year of (almost) every film I’ve watched or album I’ve listened to, I know celebrity relationships like the back of my hand, and a large portion of my brain is used up on remembering all those German and Dutch words that I spent 4 years learning.  In the past, I’ve filled my mind with useless information, clicking everything in front of me on social media and scrolling and scrolling and scrolling down my Twitter timeline.

As a result, my mind has been elsewhere. It’s been captivated by Twitter drama, following people I really don’t like and basically just giving thought to things that are not useful to me. And admittedly, it’s made me angry. I can’t even begin to count the numbers of times that I’ve shut my laptop lid, turned to my boyfriend and said something to the effect of ‘Why are people on the internet so stupid?’ or ‘How can someone think that’s okay to say?’. On a personal level, I have never been involved in any Twitter drama or argued with anyone on Facebook, it’s just not my style, so why then do I continue to follow the drama, allow it to make me angry and become consumed by it?

Over the last few months, I’ve tried to tackle this bizarre phenomenon of becoming het up about the lives of people I don’t know (or do know yet don’t care about), and I came to a solution. I wanted to nourish my soul. The internet is addictive, there’s no doubt in my mind. It has become the easiest thing to do, to come home, open your laptop and sit in front of it, watching other people live their lives, instead of improving and developing your own. But I got sick of seeing the same arguments, looking at other people’s weddings and reading people’s Facebook accounts of what their two-timing ex-boyfriend has done now.

So I just stopped doing it. I unfollowed all of the accounts I no longer thought were positive influences, deleted people from Facebook that I’ve been meaning to for years, deleted all the mindless apps on my phone for killing time and started a habit tracker. I wrote a list of all of the things I wanted to do daily and weekly to improve myself and focus on me, rather than living my life on the internet.

Now I spend so much less time online. I’m still blogging just as much and still engaging lots on social media but it’s on my terms, rather than a thing I do because I’m not doing anything else. And it feels so good. Yeah, I still check Twitter approximately everything 30 seconds but as soon as I see the drama, I just click off. My time is too precious to be taken up by things I’m not involved in and yours should be too.

Rachel x-x-x

1 Comment

  1. August 15, 2017 / 7:01 am

    Great post! I did the exact same a few months ago and it actually feels good opening my apps now. No more eyes rolling constantly as I scroll! It does mean that it’s a bit more boring sometimes, because drama can def be interesting, but that makes me go and do other, actually useful, things xx

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