Overwhelmed is a common feeling for me. Over the years I’ve got better at dealing with it, my head only feels 80% full most of the time now, rather than as though it is spilling its contents out over the top. I could tell you that meditation will help or to talk to some friends about how you’re feeling but instead I’m going to tell you what I do when I’m feeling overwhelmed.
Have a Hot Bath
You’re probably thinking that I didn’t need to add the word hot into that, but you’re wrong because when I say a hot bath, I mean a hot bath. I mean so hot that it’s probably not okay for your body but I do it anyway because when I lower myself into that water, all I’m thinking about is how amazing it feels to be engulfed by some hot hot heat. The bath is my safe place. It’s where I go when I’m sad, stressed, overwhelmed, need to think, need to not think or when I’m happy, a nice bath is a celebration, it’s a treat on a Monday night, or Tuesday, Wednesday, you follow? I love a bath and it always helps.
Curl up in a ball on the sofa
I’m not a fan of wallowing but sometimes it’s just necessary. Wallowing in bed is the ultimate no-no for me when life is overwhelming. Bed is warm and safe and it somehow traps you inside so you can’t get our for hours and then when you do, it’s usually time for bed again so you just lie awake reflecting on life and its complexities. I prefer a sofa wallow. Put your pjs on, grab a blanket, a cup of tea and curl up in a tight little ball on the sofa (preferably having put the cup of tea down already) and allow yourself to feel. I promise that it’s much easier to get up off the sofa when you’re feeling sad than from bed.
Writing has become my go to. I publish a lot of my inner thoughts on here but I also write my thoughts down in journals, in word documents or sometimes in drafts on here, knowing that I’ll never publish them but that they’re as reminders that I got through something difficult. I take great solace in writing because you can’t regret what you’ve written. It’s not like telling a friend and then wishing you hadn’t, it’s simply for you and that feels amazing when what you really want to do is blurt a load of your brain out into the world.
Put a pizza in the oven
I don’t think this one needs explaining. It’s a fact that feeling overwhelmed can be cured by a pizza.
Put some music on really loud
Sometimes thoughts get too loud. My brain often tells me that I’m doing things wrong or that I’m not working hard enough, even though I’m trying my best. Self-doubt is one of the main offenders when it comes to feeling overwhelmed, so to combat it I put on some music in my headphones and turn it up loud. Self-doubt doesn’t have a place when Katy Perry is screaming Firework in your ears.
Once you feel like you’ve wallowed suitably, it’s time to organise. Organising makes me feel like I’m top of things and gets me ready to actually be on top of things. If I feel overwhelmed, it’s usually because I haven’t been making good use of my bullet journal or updating my Google Calendar, so whilst I’ll have a vague idea what’s going on and when, I’m not 100%, so things tend to feel a little wobbly. A bit of life admin always helps, so get going as soon as you can with this, although don’t rush yourself. You can wallow for as long as you need.