Year of Calm

Year of Calm

Happy New Year! I’m waiting for something to feel different, the same way as I do on birthdays. Do I feel older, wiser? Does it feel like time has been reset? Of course not, but New Year is the perfect excuse to decide how we’re going to improve ourselves in the coming year, let go of the past year’s turmoils and achieve the goals that felt so out of reach last year that we’re now creeping towards.

I always make resolutions. They’re often the same as the previous year: get fitter, eat less sugar, be more organised. I find that I improve year on year, but we can always get even better, can’t we? This year I’ve set myself some goals but I’ve also set myself an overarching theme for the year. 2018 is my year of calm.

Excuse the airy fairyness of this coming paragraph but 2017 was the year of growth of me. I pushed myself, learnt things about myself and realised that if you really want to change things, you can. I learnt how to say no more, how to say yes more and how not to feel guilty about saying either of those things. I blogged regularly and I read more than I ever have in my life. I joined the gym and picked up musical instruments that I hadn’t touched for years. But there’s still room for improvement.

In my bid for calm, I’ve set 3 goals for the year.

1. Saying goodbye to bitchiness

We all do it. We all make snide comments behind people’s backs, subtweet others and tear down others when we’re not feeling so great about ourselves. But if there’s one thing I’ve learnt in 2017, it was that tearing others down does not build yourself up. We can all succeed, we can all be happy. One person doing well takes nothing away from you. This year I’m saying goodbye to bitchiness by using my journal as a place to pour out my feelings, instead of speaking to other people. Yes a little bitch here and there helps us feel better sometimes, but in the end it’s not doing yourself any good and it’s potentially going to harm someone else.

2. Making meditation a habit

When I meditate, I love it. I can feel the calm wash over me just by taking a few minutes out of my day to think about absolutely nothing. But, I’ve found it’s all too easy to ignore meditation when you don’t prioritise it, and that is usually the time when you need it most. This year I’ve added meditation into my habit tracker to force myself out of my own head at least once a day. I can’t wait to feel the benefits of this.

3. Cutting ties with toxicity

I’m always a little reluctant to use the word ‘toxic’ (a post for another day, perhaps?). But during the past year I’ve definitely held on to some relationships that were making me feel negative about myself. This year I’m making time for the people that do matter, and trying to realise that I can’t keep everyone happy all the time at the expense of my own happiness. Whilst it’s not always possible to completely cut ties with some people, it is possible to distance yourself and not allow their actions to effect you negatively.

What are your resolutions for 2018? Let me know down below!

Rachel x-x-x

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2 Comments

  1. January 2, 2018 / 6:15 pm

    Loved this post! Congrats on having such a successful 2017 – I’m sure this year will be great for you too! The past couple of years I’ve tried to limit my spitefulness because, like you said, tearing someone else down doesn’t build you up. It’s also a pointless waste of time and if you want people to be kind to you then it helps to not be nasty to people for no reason (like gossiping, for example). I’ve also tried to make meditation a habit! I’ll be starting it properly this year now that I’ve paid for a meditation course.

    Have you tried Headspace? I’m currently using it at the moment, and I love it. It also allows you to set daily reminders so you don’t forget. You can pay for a year upfront or you can pay monthly; it’s nice to have the option.

    I hope you have a good year and I’m looking forward to reading more of your content! x

    Alicia | https://www.alifestyleblog.co.uk

  2. January 3, 2018 / 12:46 pm

    Love your goals for this year, I need to make myself some life goals too!

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