Twitter Etiquette and Why I’m Sick of the Blogosphere

Twitter Etiquette and Why I’m Sick of the Blogosphere

I’ve been a little down on blogging recently. I thought it was a lack of motivation or that I had nothing to say but I’ve noticed it’s actually more about the blogging community. Feel free to eye roll because goddamn how many times do we bloggers get on our high horses about this?

I started blogging a little less than two years. In that time my blog has gone from being solely about mental health to more of a mix of lifestyle, mental health and general wellbeing with the odd book review for good measure. I’m so pleased and grateful for how my blog has grown over the last two years. I never imagined that anyone would read it let alone be publishing blog posts out to 5,000 Twitter followers.

But in a way I yearn for the days when I had a couple of hundred people following me because I know that I was braver with my content. I was happier to tweet my opinions because I wasn’t scared of people smacking me down in an instant. The other day I was out with a blogging friend for coffee and we talked about how we often felt scared of posting things online in case they offended someone or triggered an argument. As a quiet person, the internet has given me a platform for sharing my opinions. It has given me a place to be able to articulate my feelings before saying them, to discuss differing opinions with others and most importantly to learn from others. But in recent months, social media, Twitter in particular, feels like a breeding ground for anger, wild goose chases and hostility.

There appears to be a belief on the internet that “calling people out” is okay. It’s an almost daily occurrence on my timeline that someone will post a tweet, someone else will take offence, share it around, and before you know it, the whole blogosphere is talking about ‘drama’. Then of course, the buzzword ‘bullying’ will crop up and there’ll be yet more #drama about whether it is or isn’t bullying and why and why not we shouldn’t be throwing that term around.

What happened to polite discourse? When did we all turn into animals lashing out before re-reading to see if you’ve misunderstood or if someone has just made a throwaway comment. Twitter is a great platform for educating people and if I said something offensive then I’d be more than happy for someone to correct me on it, politely, preferably in a private message. Not retweeting the comment with a eye roll emoji and an explanation as to why it shouldn’t have been said.

Nobody is perfect and we all say things online that we shouldn’t. But sometimes we say things online that we didn’t even know we shouldn’t. There’s a fine line between pointing something out to someone and going out of your way to embarrass and upset someone in return. And the blogosphere just doesn’t seem to be getting that balance right.

People shouldn’t be scared to post their opinions, or to post anything in fact. Sometimes I spend far too long editing a tweet to make sure that it can’t be misconstrued into something that will upset someone. Maybe you could say I shouldn’t be so bothered about it. Why am I getting into such a tizz over the possibility of someone reading my tweet and being offended by it? But right now, for me, it’s not really about that.

It’s about this gang mentality of taking sides where sides don’t need to be taken. I really don’t think any one person should be telling anyone else what to do or say or believe. Sure, we can suggest that a specific tweet might be taken the wrong way but going around thinking everyone needs educating because they don’t share your opinion is patronising, not to mention rude.

This was basically a big ramble because I don’t have any answers except to say maybe we could all try to be a little kinder and not jump to conclusions so quickly. Because that’s the only way I can see the blogosphere improving its community right now.

Rachel x-x-x

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8 Comments

  1. Kanra Khan
    March 18, 2018 / 12:56 pm

    I’m going to have to agree, there’s a part of the twitter community which is ridiculously quick to jump the gun. I’m the kind of person who likes to understand both sides and often play the devil’s advocate to get a better insight into what the person I’m talking to is thinking exactly (we could totally be on the same side!! but i feel like tossing them questions helps to clear their thoughts as well!) but I’ve been blocked over it to the point where I just don’t talk to anyone who is voicing their opinions.
    Asking questions that dissect your thought process does not equal questions trying to shoot you down or rip you apart. But the blocking and staying in the closed bubble of an unchallenged opinion is much more easier to do than to educate yourself. So yeah, the community kinda sucks sometimes.
    Kanra Khan

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  2. March 18, 2018 / 1:05 pm

    I feel exactly the same way. Twitter used to be my favourite platform and now everyone seems to just get caught up on calling one person out, and it’s all I see on my timeline for days (or until they move onto the next person). Hopefully the mentality will change, but I don’t see it happening any time soon.

    Amy x
    http://www.whatamysays.com

  3. Erin
    March 18, 2018 / 5:30 pm

    I have found that no one is allowed to disagree with anyone at the moment, there cannot be a difference in opinion without their being gang hunts and retweeting, subtweeting, its exhausting. I don’t mind when anyone disagrees with me, but when people feel attacked for someone having a difference of opinion it just gets ridiculous!

    Erin || MakeErinOver

  4. March 19, 2018 / 2:29 pm

    I know what you mean but I think it’s also important to unfollow those negative people and surround yourself with positivity instead. Make your feed a place of inspiration and positivity where people are bigging each other up and not knocking each other down.

    Your blog is such a positive place so make your social media feeds the same.

    Be yourself unapologetically, always.

    Lots of love xxx

  5. March 19, 2018 / 10:51 pm

    Hm, this was sort of why I decided to *start* a (new) blog and try to focus on positivity and meet new people because I found that Facebook was really angry and negative. :-/ It’s not too encouraging to read about these issues on twitter and in the blogosphere, but maybe it’s not about this platform or that, maybe it’s like Rebekka commented about curating your feeds so you get more of the good and less of the bad. My previous blogging experience also involved some of that drama. I’m hoping it’s better this time around.

  6. March 24, 2018 / 10:18 pm

    I think this all depends on who you are following. A lot of the “drama” this year has not been on my feed as I am simply not following the drama queens. Towards the start of the year I also had a massive clear-out across all my social media feeds and I can’t recommend it enough.
    I went onto EVERYONE I follow’s twitter and skimmed over a few tweets. If I didn’t like their content, I unfollowed. I think it is because of this I miss all the pety nonsense.

  7. March 30, 2018 / 6:01 pm

    This is so spot on, and sadly accurate. I just started blogging, and I’m only at 350-ish followers, so for me i haven’t so much come across it daily as you have. However, I’m no stranger to witnessing petty arguments on Twitter.

    Especially bloggers who own their own platforms, we shouldn’t be scared to post what we want, but we do, and it makes me sad. I’ve actually been contemplating a few “Taboo” subjects to write about, but I’m scared to be ripped to shreds over my opinion. But you’re so right, we need bring each other up and not tear each other down!
    Thank You for sharing!

  8. April 24, 2018 / 5:39 pm

    Ahh calling out others like that is not okay and the minute I spot people even doing it, the block button will be pushed in a heartbeat. I don’t tolerate that stuff at all. I want people around me who are loving and supportive. And actual great community.
    Focus on all the beautiful people out there 🙂
    Leave behind the ones that drain your energy.
    Lots of love

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