Favourite Bloggers 2017 #3

It’s time for 5 more of my favourite bloggers! Check out parts 1 and 2 here!

Vee Wilde

Vee is basically just really cool. She’s a fifth of the best Whatsapp group on the planet and posts are always really interesting and unlike much you see elsewhere in the blogosphere. I love how individual Vee is and her Instagram is total goals.

Fave Post of 2017:

Oh Where The Craft Would Take Me is my favourite of Vee’s post this year. I know nothing about Wiccan or witches so I love learning about it through Vee. This particular post was my favourite because I really want to visit more places in the UK next year so this gave me some inspiration.

Abbey Louisa Rose

There aren’t many people that I would happily have stay in my flat without ever having met them but I took the plunge with Abbey because she didn’t seem like a murderer and luckily I was right. Abbey is the most kind hearted, intelligent and hard working blogger. Everything Abbey writes is so well thought out and her posts are always so professional.

Fave Post of 2017:

On Being Unfashionable was my favourite post from Abbey this year. It really spoke to me, having never been into what was fashionable but still liking clothes. Also the photographs are the cutest!

Rebecca Moynihan

I met Rebecca for the first time in November last year and just under a year later we spent a weekend away in Edinburgh. Rebecca’s blog is incredibly relatable, always intelligent and has the most beautiful photography. Basically she’s just the best.

Fave Post of 2017:

Can I choose them all? No but seriously it’s so hard to choose my favourite of Rebecca’s posts because they’re just all so good. One of my favourites is Allowing yourself to be emotional because I totally understand the sentiment of this post and I think it’s really inspiring.

Sian Blogs

Sian is another incredibly kind and intelligent blogger that I love following. I met up with Sian last month and we ate burgers and milkshakes which was all kinds of wonderful. Sian’s blog is one of my favourites because it’s really unique. So many blogs feature long form posts and whilst I love that, I also love Sian’s shorter posts, like her photo diaries and 5 Rad Things series.

Fave Post of 2017:

I knew I had to pick one of Sian’s Trek America posts for this but choosing one was really hard. In the end, I’ve gone for Touring Las Vegas because the photos are phenomenal.

B, Rambling

I found Bethany through my good blogging pal Gwennan at Twenty Something Meltdown and I’m so glad I did. Bethany’s blog is a collection of think pieces, travel posts and beauty and I always immediately click on her posts when I see them on my timeline. B, Rambling is definitely one to watch in 2018!

Fave Post of 2017: 

Again there were so many posts to choose from but my favourite of Bethany’s this year is I Don’t Have Any Dreams because I’m so bad for wishing my life away, dreaming of what my life could be like in the future, without giving any thought to the now. This piece really drilled that home to me.

Rachel x-x-x

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Negative Nancies Need Not Apply

Bloggers love nothing more than to declare the blogging community ‘unsupportive’ and throw around that old chestnut ‘negativity’ like there’s no tomorrow.

When I first started blogging, I tried to insert myself into the mental health blogging community. On the whole I found the people were welcoming and I was so motivated by what others were doing that I wanted to succeed myself. Quickly, I began to forge real friendships with people from lots of different communities (shout out to my fave Whatsapp girls), and I truly felt supported by them.

Nowadays it seems like everywhere I look, people are berating the blogging community, accusing it of not being supportive enough. A community where people like Jemma at Dorkface has spent a whole day promoting others through her Twitter account, where Bethany from B,Rambling features her favourite posts of the week in a Monday Medley, where Queen Beady routinely shouts out her favourite accounts on Twitter and Instragram.

When are we going to stop complaining and start recognising the enormous amount of support in this community that’s happening all of the time?

I’ve always felt like Twitter is a positive place on the whole. It’s people retweeting other’s selfies with ‘yaaas’ or a ‘damn girl.’ It’s retweeting posts that you love and want others to see.

Maybe it becomes harder to see the positives when you become so intertwined with social media that you confuse it with your own self-worth. Suddenly you have 3,000 followers but you don’t have the tight knit community that you felt like you had at 500 followers. But if you’re following the right people, you’ll see that support is a huge part of the community, and it’s everywhere, every single day. I can’t scroll down Twitter without seeing someone retweeting someone else’s post or sharing a list of their favourite blogs.

The blogging community isn’t negative at all, at least not from where I’m sitting. There are always going to be cliques in the blogging community, it’s human nature. But you don’t have to be part of one to feel the positive effects of the community. Just being yourself is enough.

(P.S. if you’re not following the people I mentioned above, what you doing? Get following!)

Rachel x-x-x

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The Paradox of Blogging

I am angry at the blogosphere.

I am angry that people don’t talk enough about the topics that need talking about, whilst simultaneously being angry that people are criticised for writing about makeup.

I am angry that Instagram is terrible for engagement and yet I think the whole idea of being angry about anything to do with Instagram is ridiculous.

I am angry that blogging ‘niches’ and ‘communities’ are often seen solely as a way to segregate whilst also feeling that they often only serve that very purpose.

I am angry that bloggers are criticised for liking marble, for posting flatlays and for having Instagram themes even when I would also love to see something different.

I am angry that blogging is saturated with similar post after similar post with some absolute diamonds in between, and yet creating entirely unique content is nigh on impossible.

I am confused why people feel the need to air their entire lives online but I also totally understand.

This was purely a jumble of my thoughts over the last few weeks regarding various blogger dramas and tweets I’ve seen and I’m really not sure of the purpose of it, but hey ho, what’s new there? The internet blurs a lot of lines and it can sometimes be difficult to get to the heart of what someone really means when they have to fit their thoughts in 140 characters or less. I’m angry that people sometimes say the wrong thing and I’m also angry that people are so quick to jump down others throats when they think they’ve done wrong. I suppose being angry about two different ends of the spectrum should cancel the anger out and means I should feel neutral about the whole situation thing but *insert shrugging girl emoji here*

Rachel x-x-x

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Nothing Is Ever Truly Deleted on the Internet

There have been a number of things happening in the blogging community this week that have caused a fair amount of drama and anger. This post isn’t about any specific drama, more an amalgamation of what I’ve learned from various Twitter arguments over the last couple of years, however something arose from this that I’ve been turning over in my head since and I want to get it down in writing. In life and online I’m very much a ‘think before you speak’ kind of person. I mull things over before I ever open my mouth to say them, which in truth, often leads to the moment passing and me saying nothing.

In life, emotions get the better of us and we react without thinking, whether that be snapping at our parents over a small remark or arguing with a partner over household chores. But on the internet it becomes that little bit easier. Yes, most of us have our faces in our profile pictures but Twitter still allows us that barrier of anonymity. Chances are that our Twitter friends will back us up if we ever get involved in an online argument and no one is going to come round and bash your door down (unless it’s an episode of Snapped because that’s exactly what happens on that show). The internet gives us that extra push to say what we’re feeling in that exact moment without delay.

Blogging is competitive and the idea of ‘community’ is floated around so often that I don’t even know the meaning of it anymore. When you blog or tweet or put any kind of content on the internet, it stays there. You can delete it but there’s always the possibility that someone has saved it or that it’s deep in some cache somewhere. You know what they say, nothing is ever truly deleted on the internet.

The problem with this is that it’s very easy to appear a hypocrite. I haven’t even been blogging that long, two years at the most and there’s already an extremely good backlog of my life online. But in two years I’ve changed. My life is different, my views have changed and I’m certain that opinions I held even just two years ago would make me cringe now. That doesn’t make me a hypocrite, it just makes me human.

What I’m trying to say (although in a rather long winded fashion, I’m sorry) is that there’s very little room on the internet for change or perhaps a better word would be growth. People remember your mistakes much more easily when they are literally written down in front of them. In all honesty, this thought absolutely terrifies me. The idea that I could say something without thinking it through today and have people not forget that I’ve said it is really scary, which is why, going back to the start of my post, I always aim to think before writing something down.

It’s really easy for things to be taken the wrong way on the internet and this week has shown me just how angry and volatile people become when they’re hurt. So allow people the chance to apologise, allow for mistakes to be made and stick to the age old mantra of treating people how you wanted to be treated. It’s hard to go far wrong from that.

Rachel x-x-x

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A Gloriously Self-Indulgent Blog Post

This might sound like a strange time of year for reflection, we’ve passed halfway when everyone was writing their ‘Did I keep up with my New Year’s Resolutions’ posts. (Mine would have been a very short post because did I stick to my resolutions? Did I hell!)

I’m not an avid stat watcher but I like to see how my blog is doing from time to time. What I mean by this is that I have a cute little stat tracker in my bullet journal that I update weekly, but I didn’t want to sound too neurotic about it. This week as I was about to fill it in, I noticed that I had smashed my daily views goal for the year. I’m not going to give you the whole ‘numbers aren’t everything’ chat because personally I find numbers motivating. Every day is a chance to do better and right now, every day I am doing better, in every single aspect of my life, including blogging.

I started blogging as a hobby. I just needed a way of getting all of those overwhelming thoughts that can so easily drag you down, onto paper. And when I realised that people did this online, I wanted to have my say on things too.

What started as a way for me to talk about mental health and wellbeing, both my own and more generally, has become a place I feel that I can talk about anything. For someone that spent 22 years living in their own head, being able to articulate my thoughts in writing for other people to read has only been a positive force in my life.

It has given me space to become myself, to be proud of who that person is and made me feel like there are other people out there who also overthink everything and feel far too deeply. I’ve made such amazing friends from blogging and educated myself on subjects that I would never have had a clue about it were it not for blogging.

For all its Twitter dramas, bizarre trends (I still don’t get rose gold) and that old blogging chestnut, ‘negativity’, blogging has given me a life that I didn’t know I could have.

What has blogging changed for you? Let me know in the comments?

Rachel x-x-x

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