Blogvember Day 3 // Things I’ve Learnt From Being An Introvert

I am an introvert through and through. In fact, I’m probably as introverted as they come. So, in today’s post I wanted to share some things I have learnt in my almost 24 years of life as an introvert.


I don’t dislike people.

Honestly, I don’t. (hahaha) No really. I don’t dislike people at all. Actually I love them. But it might make sense to say that I love people from afar. I love hearing people’s stories and finding out their idiosyncrasies, seeing what makes them tick. But when it comes to actually being a part of the conversation, I’d always rather keep my distance helpful resources. Kind of like I’m the viewer and they’re on the television.

I get my energy from being alone.

Something I always hear about extroverts is how they get their energy from being around others but I never really hear the opposite about introverts. So I’m hear to tell you it’s absolutely true. I never feel more energy than when I am on my own, working on one of my own projects, whether it’s uni work or my blog. Whatever it is, I’d rather be doing it alone because that’s when I feel most creative. I find people exhausting to be around. Give me half an hour, maybe an hour on a good day but then I’m going to need to go home and recharge because being on my own gives me something that being around company never can.

People think it’s weird to do things on your own.

Often I feel more confident doing things on my own than I do with other people. I will happily take myself for a coffee or a meal or to a museum and I’m totally fine with that. Other people though? They don’t seem to get it. They will question why I didn’t ask them if they wanted to go so that I didn’t have to go alone? Awkward when you have to say that actually you were perfectly happily going it alone.


I overanalyse everything.

Because I spend so much time on my own, it gives me time to over analyse every little thing that I’d ever said or done. If I have a busy day surrounded by people I really notice the difference because I don’t go home feeling anxious as I just haven’t had time to think about it. But if I spend all day alone, you can bet I will ruminate on a tiny facet of my life for hours and hours.

Introverts are lonely people.

If there’s one thing I’m not, it’s lonely. Why? Because I absolutely love being alone. I’m probably in the minority of people here but I just never get lonely. My boyfriend thinks this is super weird. I could probably go days on end without any human contact and I’d be mighty fine in my own little world.

You won’t change me.

I’ve had a lot of people make assumptions about why I do or do not like certain activities. I’ve been told that the reason I do not like going to clubs is because I have a boyfriend. Incorrect. The reason I don’t like going to clubs is because I am an introvert, and honestly spending the whole night with a group of people in a room of a bigger group of bigger is my idea of hell. Yes, I’ll come out every once in a while but I’ll probably go home early so that I can curl up in bed with a book.

Even if I feel more self confident throughout life, I think I’ll always be an introvert and that shouldn’t really matter to anyone else.

What do you think? Are you an introvert or an extrovert? Let me know in the comments!

Rachel x-x-x


A – Z of Mental Health

I’ve been wanting to write this post for a while so what better day than World Mental Health Day. K, X and V are missing because there were no obvious choices!

Also there are a few mental health resources at the bottom of this post if you’re looking for support or more info!

A is for Antipsychotics

If you’ve never heard of them then being put on antipsychotics can sound really scary. They can be used for psychosis, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder and severe depression and can be really beneficial for those that need them.

B is for Better

It can be hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. There will be good day and bad days but you with the right support you will get better.

C  is for Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)

CBT is a type of talking therapy that focuses on changing the way you think by transforming your negative thoughts into positive ones. It’s most commonly used in anxiety and depression and has been proven to be as effective as medication. You can undertake CBT with a healthcare practitioner or with self-help materials.

D is for Diet

Changing how you eat can have huge results in improving your mental health. Eating healthy foods and staying hydrated is really important in keeping energy levels up. If you’re constantly snacking on unhealthy treats it can make you feel lethargic and stop you from finding motivation to get better. Equally it’s totally okay to eat unhealthy snacks from time to time!

E is for Energy

If you have a mental health disorder you might find that you don’t have as much energy as you used to. Firstly, that’s okay! Mental health issues are exhausting so make sure to listen to your body – if you’re tired then sleep!

F is for Friends

Lots of people isolate themselves when their mental health is bad and one of the most common phrases I’ve heard is that they don’t want their friends and family to see them like that. But what if you saw one of your friends not being themselves. Wouldn’t you want to be there for them and support them? If you have good friends they will always understand.

G is for Goals

Setting yourself goals is a really good way to stay motivated and improve mental wellbeing. On the worst days set yourself small goals like Today I will make a cup of tea and on your good days the possibilities are endless for the goals you can set for yourself!

H is for Hearing Voices

Hearing voices is a common symptom of psychosis, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder and even some more severe cases of depression. It’s also something 25% of the population experiences and most of these are not mentally unwell. For some people these might not be threatening voices whereas for others it can be an extremely scary experience. If you are hearing voices that cause you concern talk to your GP or someone you feel confident sharing this with.

I is for Individual

Every single person is different and therefore every single presentation of mental illness is different too. It can be hard for people to understand your presentation of something when it doesn’t look the same way as the media portray it. This is why we have to fight stigma to make sure that each of our individual portrayals of mental health disorders are given the right attention.

J is for Judgement

We all make judgements and sometimes these judgements relate to people with mental illnesses. We might judge people with eating disorders to be attention seeking  or think that those with Borderline Personality Disorder are ‘bad’ people. We don’t do this to people with physical illnesses so let’s not with mental health!

L is for Lonely

Feeling alone is common when you have a mental health disorder. But what’s important to remember is that you’re not alone. There are lots of resources and services that can help (I’ve left them down below!) It can be really easy to isolate yourself when you’re feeling bad but trying to meet a friend for coffee or having someone come over and visit you can be really beneficial.

M is for Medication

Sometimes medication is treated like a naughty word in regard to mental health but for some it’s a miracle worker. Depending on your diagnosis your doctor will work with you to find a medication that suits you whether this is a short or long term solution. Regardless, medication for mental illness should not be a taboo!

N is for Numbness

In my post Depression: How Are You Feeling? I asked people to describe their depression. An overwhelming amount of the answers talked about feeling numb which is a common symptom of depression. If you’re feeling like this talk to your GP.

O is for Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

OCD is a type of anxiety disorder that causes people to become preoccupied with obsessions and compulsions. To learn more check out Nicole’s post An Open Letter to OCD.

P is for Personality Disorders

In my opinion, personality disorders attract some of the worst stigma when it comes to mental health. The lovely Beth from Adventure and Anxiety wrote this fabulous guest post on her personality disorder  which you can check out here.

Q is for Questions

Whether you’ve just received a diagnosis, you’ve had a mental illness for years or a friend or a family member is dealing with mental health issues, chances are you’ve got a lot of questions. It’s totally okay to feel confused and not know what to do. To ease some of these questions there are plenty of services in the list down below for more info and support.

R is for Recovery

Sometimes recovery can seem miles away from where we are now, but it’s important to remember that recovery is a process. Recovery is about getting you to a place in your life where you feel in control to be able to achieve your goals.

S is for Self-Harm

Self-harm is extremely common but also hugely stigmatised. Often self harm involves cutting of the skin but it can also include burning, punching, hair pulling and lots more. You can read Alice’s from guest post here.

T is for Terminology

I think this is a really important one. On my course I hear acronyms thrown around all the time: UTI, CPA, CC. It’s confusing for service users and their friends and family. There is so much mental health terminology that makes it difficult for people to understand the real meaning behind professional’s words. By speaking about mental health more openly we will hear terms more frequently out in the open which will make things less confusing as a result.

U is for Useless

Feeling useless is a common issue when dealing with a mental illness. Maybe you’re waiting on a diagnosis so you don’t feel like you can make any progress or maybe some days you just can’t get out of bed so you feel like you’re useless to everyone. First things first, that’s not true. Make a list of the things you can do and you might feel a tiny bit better.

W is for Wellbeing

I’m a huge advocate for positive mental wellbeing. For me wellbeing is about feeling confident and happy in yourself and focusing on doing activities that help you to feel this way. To create my own positive wellbeing I like to listen to music, indulge in bubble baths and get frequent exercise. Try to think of small steps you can take to create good mental wellbeing for yourself.

Y is for You

This is what this is all about isn’t it? Whether it’s what you can do to help break down stigma or what you can do to help yourself. Your mental health is about you!

Z is for Z Z Z

Sleep is really important! Each mental disorder comes with its own sleep related symptoms. If you have anxiety, you struggle to fall asleep as night. Equally if you have depression you might find that you’re sleeping all the time. Get into a routine and be aware that you need good quality sleep to feel good! Check out my post on getting a better night’s sleep here.





Big White Wall

Rachel x-x-x


Eating Disorders Are Not A Joke

In the last of my Mental Health guest post series, Bethanie talks about her experience with eating disorders.




Those who know exactly what an Eating Disorder is will tell you that it is one of the worst things to go through. Those who have not been through the reality of eating disorders will probably have no idea what I am going to talk about… but that ok, because its time for people to actually sit down and understand it.

Ok… imagine this, you have a friend, this friend is the most annoying, clingy person you possibly know. you want them to leave you alone, but you are stuck with them, they are constantly telling you that everything you do is wrong, and that no matter how hard you try you can not please people. Nothing you do is good enough.  When you walk places – you haven’t walked enough, when you eat something -you have eaten to much.

Stressful right? This is what people with an eating disorder experience first hand on a daily basis.

Now from an outside point of view eating disorders may not make sense… I mean just eat right? I’m sure its not that hard to go to Burger King and have a burger.  WRONG. For those who suffer with an eating disorder all of this makes sense.

Growing up, I always suffered with my eating… back before I was in high school it was purely unintentional. To me I just wasn’t hungry, it wasn’t about how big I was etc… however i always thought I was bigger then the average person. I remember on one occasion my nan brought me some orange tonic medicine thing… it was the most vile thing I have ever tasted in my life… and it was to make me eat.

In primary school I would throw my sandwiches away so i wouldn’t get in to any trouble for not eating them. At the time I didn’t think it was a big deal but looking back it kind of makes senses.

When I eventually got in to high school I started to develop like any other girl, which I hated. Because I’m quite small, the weight I gained made me look bigger then I actually was. I tried everything to get my weight down. I bought diet pills online, I tried teatoxing, binging and purging, restricting, and before I knew it the weight did come off. This carried on all through out my high school years. I would log on to Pro- ana sites, looking for more motivation to loose weight, it was an out of control spiral, and I couldn’t stop myself. I had a ton of ‘ana buddies’ these are basically people that you meet online that helps you loose weight.

Now at the time I genuinely thought there was nothing wrong with me, but one of my ‘buddies’ at the time, who actually is know one of my best friend’s messaged me one day and basically said her family had found out and had sent her to get help. She told me she had realised what she was doing and that she didn’t want to do it anymore, we skyped and cried and cried for hours and finally I decided I was going to go and talk to someone about my eating habits. — I am now going to say that this vanished over night… and I am not going to tell you that i do not have any eating problems now. Because i do. Sometimes its so difficult not to restart my eating, especially if i put on a pound or two.

Sometimes when i pig out with friends, its hard not to throw up after.

But you know what?

It does get easier in a way. I do not weigh my self every day like i used to.

I go to the Gym, and i eat healthy, but i still indulge a little bit. There are certain foods that i do not eat, and maybe will never eat again, purely for the problems that I have. But I’m coming up to 2 years in recovery, it has been a bumpy road, and i have had a few slip ups. But I have never been happier.

There is a lot of stigma with eating disorders that infuriate me, people judge people for being too ‘thin’ or too ‘big’  you do not have to be SUPER SKINNY to have an eating disorder…. to the outside world I didn’t, I was thin yes, but not what society would call ‘anorexic’

An eating disorder isn’t about the size of a person, but its about what is going on inside of that person. It is a mental disorder, and society has made it into a joke.

For people reading this that do not know much about it, please please research it before you make judgement on someone.

And for those that have been through an eating disorder, I really hope and pray for you on your journey, and that where ever you are, you are finding the strength to fight through it!

?? Bethanie blogs at It’s Bethaniee. You can find her on Twitter here!



According to it is believed that 13% of young people self harm, so why are we still not talking about it? Here, Alice from talks about her experience.


This is something I’ve rarely spoken about in my life; I haven’t even ventured into talking about this on my own blog. But when I saw Rachel’s idea to collate other bloggers’ stories about their mental health, and how to stop the stigma, I thought it was very important that I shared my story too.

My name is Alice and I’m 21 years old. I’ve suffered with anxiety and depression since I was about 16 – just as I was leaving school and starting college.

I noticed my mood had changed but I couldn’t decide why that was. I was excited for college – I wasn’t scared or worried. My low moods didn’t make sense.

Nonetheless, I jumped right into my course with as much enthusiasm as I could. I made some lovely friends and enjoyed how creative a photography course allowed me to be. But unfortunately, my mental health was growing worse on the sidelines, and no matter how much I tried to ignore it, I couldn’t.

It affected my work and social life, and all my friendships.

I started to self harm as a form of control. I used the feeling of pain I inflicted on myself to control the mixed up emotions I felt inside. And it worked for a while, although the constant covering of my wrists was tiring.

There was always the ‘emo’ label attached to self harming when I was younger. You were an attention-seeking, emo freak, basically. But it couldn’t have been more the opposite. I didn’t want people to know. I definitely didn’t want attention. I just wanted to be left alone.

It didn’t really start to get better until my college tutor noticed what was happening. She took me aside and told me she was worried and wanted to help. She said something that still resonates with me now: “I know how hard this must be for you – watching everyone your age having normal lives, worrying about normal things, when you feel like you are worlds apart from them.”

It was so true. I couldn’t believe how isolated I felt because I was suffering with something I felt I couldn’t talk about.

I still suffer now. Luckily I am a good few years clean of my self harm, and I’m very proud of this! But my mental health gets the better of me even now.

We need to end stigma in talking about these things. It may be uncomfortable and still a little bit taboo, but the more comfortable we make ourselves with these issues, the more compassionate we can be towards them and the more effective our recoveries can be.
I would encourage anyone who is struggling to seek help, be it medical help or even just confiding in someone you trust. You would be amazed how good it feels to finally share the burden with someone who cares and who wants the best for you.

??Alice blogs at Invocati. You can find her on Twitter here!


Zoe works with STITCH, an agency which researches for Mental Health Support Networks in order to signpost people to better mental health services. Here, Zoe talks all about her work with STITCH.


I didn’t always understand mental health, when a close family member suffered with a bout of serious depression, I still did not understand mental health. I can remember the feeling of isolation. We didn’t know what to do, how to get it sorted or who to turn to.

There wasn’t a quick fix, the GPs provided medication that had their own set of side effects, the psychiatrists and nurses weren’t always sympathetic. My loved one moved around charities and organisations looking for the right support for her, repeating her story each time to no avail; this was distressing. The journey to recovery for my loved one was a long one, but she made it. The journey would have been less turbulent if we had known where to turn and which resources would have been most effective.

According to Mind, 1 in 4 people suffer with mental health problems.

Since working with STITCH, a research & marketing agency who have been commissioned by NHS Eastern Cheshire CCG to research mental health services in the area. I have spent considerable time with my colleagues speaking to those with mental health concerns and their carers who also need support.


Our research has unveiled wonderful support networks, proving that there is support out there, but since the information online and from the GPs is so fragmented those in need aren’t discovering the support networks early enough, if at all. We need to start talking about mental health so people know where to turn – this is where YouinMind comes in.

Kate Carney, managing director of STITCH and founder of mental health platform, YouinMind states: “Support providers are not always trained in marketing and communications, as a result service users can’t find them, so there is a lower uptake. Everyone gets frustrated and commissioners feel there is no need and so services get cut.”

Our research has highlighted that there is, without doubt an abundance of people not knowing where to turn, but also groups of people in agreement that “once you get the right support, you’ve cracked it.” This is great…but where are we supposed to go or the right support?

YouinMind is an online platform currently under development. YouinMind, founded by STITCH director, Kate Carney is here to address this need.


You can find it on Twitter @YouinMind_org, or e-mail

We are currently looking for mental health support providers – charities, organisations counsellors, support groups, courses etc to list on the website for free.

We need to start talking about mental health and we need to find a way so that those with mental health concerns can be easily signposted to the support that they need for their individual situation.

Get in touch today!    @STITCH_DigDeep    @YouinMind_org



My personal experience with mental health started when I needed to support a close family member through her depression.

Despite this I feel that my knowledge of mental health didn’t really grow until I became a research and marketer for STITCH Dig Deep earlier this year. STITCH are working on behalf of Eastern Cheshire CCG to find out how the mental health services in this area can be improved. STITCH have spoken with a range of mental health service users and their carers who also need help and support.

I am passionate about the importance of mental health and helping others find the support that they need. It is a pleasure to mix this passion with work. STITCH’s research has unveiled a need for YouinMind, a mental health support platform founded by Kate Carney. I’m excited to share what YouinMind do and how you can all get involved.